Patterns of People
We are all connected and move in tandem, pushing and pulling
each other with our intentions, actions and reactions.
We, the leaders, the followers, the dependent, the
co-dependent, are all altering each other’s trajectories, swirling around
together in this thick soup of physical, emotional and spiritual co-existence.
My push can force you.
My pull can redirect you. With
conscious effort, I can lead you. In the
same manner, you can, and do, effect me.
Extend your perception in this shared web of vibrational ripples out
beyond simply the two of us; we encounter many more than that in our daily circles
of influence.
Add to our equation Free
Will.
You can choose how to react if something “pushes you to the
limit,” or if I “push your buttons.”
When there is force placed upon us, we are pressured to react in some
way: either move, or stand still or push back.
The ball is in your court.
The opposite of being pushed is feeling the vacuous absence
or withdrawal of a previously present force. Often we feel the pull of emptiness effecting
us, or the pull of despair. The passivity of an action by another presents to you
the opportunity to take action, to add your force to the relationship and to
make something happen. In this, you more
greatly affect the direction and velocity of the relationship: you choose how
forcefully (or not) you want to (or not) insert yourself into the
relationship. The ball is in your court
again.
There are some important things to remember as you are
setting yourself up to make the return.
In the general conditions of today’s world, we do not very often need to
employ the exceptionally old survival device of our internal fight/flight adrenaline response. Humans are currently
at the top of the food chain. Now our
biggest enemy is our own self, not the Bengal tiger in the foliage waiting to
eat you. Also, kindly remember that you
wisely have gained a few more useful skills than when you were a child.
Because we have evolved in this way, now when we are choosing
how to act or react in a situation, humans have the luxury of time, the gifts
of experience to reference and patience to practice when considering, planning,
strategizing and organizing our actions prior to implementing them.
The scientific method, "a method or
procedure that has characterized natural science since the 17th century,” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scientific_method uses these steps: Observe à Calculate à Hypothesize, to formulate and prove
premises that then tend to become accepted as truth by the general consensus. By using the scientific method to back up or
deny what we think may or may not be true, we are, by perceiving and then
measuring, creating our own reality.
The Hindu
god Brahma and his wife, Saraswati, also created our world through similar
tactics. As Brahma dreamed, he perceived
what he wanted the world to be. Saraswati,
the goddess of wisdom, the processor of Brahma’s dream, was the catalyst for
manifesting this reality. Perceive à Process à Manifest
To create
art or philosophy, or shift paradigms in thinking (change reality), you must be
willing to relate to the world around you (extend yourself, take some risks,
try some variances), meditate on what you perceive (ponder on relationships and
patterns, belief systems and world views), and then you will be able to produce
an outcome to share. Relate à Meditate à Create
Understanding how your actions and intentions influence
others, just as the force, direction and intensity of their actions and
reactions effect you, is a very powerful realization. The knowledge of this power is a truth we all
know, but it is also one that we often take for granted or forget its great magnitude. Each of our actions are shaping our reality
and the reality that we share with everyone else.
What are you going to do with this power? Make the world a better place? Better start with holding yourself
accountable and making yourself a better person. J Then we can start working on healing the rest
of the world.
Have no illusions; this will take work and effort:
·
Dedication
·
Commitment
·
Loyalty
·
Honesty
·
Strength
·
Endurance
·
Perseverance
·
Faith
When circumstances force you to take a good hard look at
yourself, you will start to compare
What it is you Got, and what it
is you Need.
See where they don’t match?
Take time to consciously and logically recognize this and begin to
realign yourself to your true heart’s desire.
From there you will be able to actualize and maximize your potential and
achieve greatness!
True Healing Requires Accountability
In order to have accountability, you need awareness. In order to be aware, you need to be truthful
and honest with yourself.
From this, you can begin to identify that which is the root
of your pain.
It is scary.
It is hard.
You have been in doubt and burying it for a long time. That trench is worn deep. It’ll be hard to climb out, but you can, if
you want.
You are resourceful.
You are perseverant.
You are loved and supported on this journey.
You are not alone.
Everyone is rooting for you!
Everyone who truly cares and loves you wants to see you succeed- it’s
true!
Getting Rid of Patterns of Self-Sabotage; Healing the Pain of Your Heart
I am tired of hurting
myself. I have punished myself
enough. My denial is a veil over my
heart.
Step One: ID the
root of your pain.
Step Two: Make a
commitment to get yourself out of this trench you’ve created for yourself. Know it’s going to get better, I promise.
Step Three:
Recognize the pain you have caused yourself and others over this. You’ve tortured enough. Get out of your self-made prison and consider
releasing others you’ve held captive with you in this.
Step Four: Own
It. Recognize and value the pain that
you feel. It is legitimate. Start to write down what you’re thinking and
feeling. A lot of stuff is bubbling
up. It’s called gaining WISDOM. Jot this stuff down. It’s part of the process. It’s ok.
You can do it. You are loved and
supported.
Step Five: Begin
to forgive yourself and others. This
takes time. Write letters. You do not have to mail them, but write it
out. Get out the toxins.
Step Six:
Apologize to those people you have hurt (even if inadvertently) by your
actions. This only works if you are sincere.
Step Seven: Begin
to heal. Take good care of
yourself. Stay mindful in how you treat
yourself and others. Be aware of the
impact you generate.
The choice is yours.
Choose consciously.
Fear and Indecision will keep you stuck.
Denial will keep you stuck.
Untether yourself from what is no longer needed.
Be Free!
Claim your heart’s desire!
It’s all for you!
Believe it!!!
